| Do you ever get caught up in the circle of worry what other people are saying about you?! I know I used to All. The. Time! Then I heard someone say, ‘other people’s opinions of you are NONE of your business.’ Truthfully, it took a moment until I could fully grasp this, but when I did, it became a game changer. As I have been sharing, our thoughts create our reality. Therefore, other people’s thoughts create THEIR reality. Neither are the full Truth. They are our own creation. This is why other people’s opinions of you are none of your business. If you think of your thoughts/reality like a movie screen, every character/person plays a role in the movie that is being displayed out in front of you. Typically, you cast similar people in roles in your movie. There is always a victim and a hero. You are usually the hero. Admit it, you usually are! While your movie is playing out, so is theirs. And YOU are being type cast into a character they need in their movie. When they base their opinion of you, it is 100% from their own thought of who you should be to fit the narrative. This is why their opinion of you is none of your business. They created the narrative from their own thought. Since you have no control of other people’s thoughts, it is NONE of your business who you were type cast as. You know WHO you are. (If you do not, this is a completely different topic that I can help support you!) And that is what matters. This week play around with the imagery of everyone in your world has been cast as a person in your personalized movie set. See if this helps shift the heaviness you may feel around certain people in your life. If you have an aha, please let me know! Much love, Trudi PS – I caught a recent episode of Red Table Talk. It is Season 5, episode 17. It is 36:06 minutes long. I recommend the whole episode if you have the time. If you do not, please watch starting at 23:37 for other people’s opinions. They said it so brilliantly that I wanted to send the video versus creating my own. Also, author Nedra Glover Tawwab is on at 26:10. She wrote the book Set boundaries, find peace. (Fabulous book!) There is one other clip at 33:50 about healing vs healed that is a must watch! |