I was listening to Brene Brown’s – The Power of Vulnerability. This quote always stops me in my tracks.
‘If ‘how to’ worked, we would not be the most obese, in debt, medicated and addicted adults in human history. If ‘how to’ worked, we wouldn’t be struggling as much as we are with feeling lonely and disconnected. And mostly if ‘how to’ worked, all of us would not struggle all the time with feeling like we were enough cuz we would just follow the tips and tricks.’
There is so much to unpack here.
Obese. In-debt. Medicated. Addicted. Yes! Sadly, it is true.
I see all of that and know this is the aftermath of us not feeling our feelings. We would rather take a pill than actually deal with ourselves and our feelings.
Feeling lonely and disconnected. This is the one that I think about CONSTANTLY! However, not in the way you would think.
Lonely and disconnected is 2012-2015 Trudi. 2018-2023 Trudi wants to know how I can help others from feeling lonely and disconnected. It is a big part of my mission.
Tips and tricks. UGH! In general, I hate when people sell tips and tricks. And truthfully, I see it all the time. Tips and tricks may work when cooking but may not always work when it comes to my feelings.
How you process and how I process are not always equal.
Knowing this month my theme is connection I want to go back to the comment about feeling lonely and disconnected.
In a world where we have ALL of the options to connect. However, we are the loneliest we have ever been.
Why do you think that is? My belief is because it is superficial connection.
We dislike having to see one another’s pain. If we acknowledge their pain, we could possibly catch it ourselves. Now I am being dramatic, but that was how it always made me feel.
It was a rare occurrence someone would just hold space for me to be in my pain. Not in my suffering but in my pain. I would shift to the suffering when people could not witness my pain. People could see the suffering, not the pain. So weird!
One of the beliefs I held when I was at my heaviest grief was that while I knew God created us to all have connection with one another. And it was a cruel joke that I was left without that connection of my family at a young age.
We all desire connection. So why are we allowing our fear of rejection to win?
| Much love, Trudi |