Breakthrough conversations are what I love providing for my clients so when I can have one I am here for it!
While venting to a colleague, I had so many aha moments but the one that has been showing up the most is that I have been hiding to be liked! Oof!
Networking = wanting others to like me. Being in community with other coaches = wanting to be liked. Etc.
This actually takes me back to being the little girl who had her mom as her teacher or in the school. Making sure I was upholding the family image. I was fighting against her being a teacher, her being the assistant principal and a dead brother. It was a lot to hold the image.
And I got called out that I am doing it yet again as go into the world.
I have been being ‘nice’ so that I can be liked. And that ended on December 1st. I was going to wait until the beginning of the new year but decided that I must start immediately.
I have been watering down my essence so that I can fit in. That is not authentic me! That is not the me I love the most.
So I am sharing with you since I know that we are related more than we know! Where are you people pleasing to fit in with others to not rock the boat?
PS – the thing about nice is it is not respectful. It is a stance you take to protect your own feelings. Being nice is manipulative and wastes a lot of time.
PSS – Always choose being kind over being nice!